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How very true! I really believe that we are all coming to second life as a way to have fun, not with the intention in order to be ridiculed. Especially at Melioria I think, where besides having a historical roleplaying going on, the main intention is still to have a bunch of fun with each other (or at least, that is my impression from my few visits).

In a 18th century world etiquette was not just applied at Royal Courts, such as with the example of the rigorous etiquette established by Louis XIV (although it was mainly already developed as Henri III's & Catherine de Medici's etiquette, I believe) but by everyone who formed part of the 'high society', which most of us are trying to play. In this high society everyone followed these social rules, called etiquette, in order to distinguish themselves from the other classes of society. Thus, by doing certain thingss not a certain way, such as by running in the streets or smelling your food, you would easily portray yourself as a vulgar and ill-bred person. Now, concerning this topic here I could find two things in 18th century etiquette quickly:

Giving advice unasked, is another piece of rudness: it is, in effect, declaring ourself wiser than those to whom we give it; reporaching them with ignorance and inexperience. It is a freedom that ought not tob e taken any common acquintance, and there are those, who will be offended, if their advice is not taken.

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Not that I would have you give up your opinion always; no affert your own sentiments, and oppose those of others, when wrong; but ler your manner and voice be gentle and engaging, and yet no ways affected. If you contradict, do it with I may be wrong, I wont be positive, but I really think if I may be permitted to say, and close your dispute with good humour, to show you are neither displeased yourself not meant to displease the person you dispute with.

Thus, if you would ever feel the need to share with someone your opinion, it should never be done in a displeasing way, which might upset the other according to 18th century etiquette. [ And I dare say, that this still nowadays is the social rule!]

I think this will always remain a problem with 'brutta figuras' if this person is from a RP where the boundaries between what is OOC and what is IC are more clear. If one leaves this RP but takes the character to other places, than they should leave the rudeness or vulgarity that comes with their character at home, whereas in other RPs and sims they are guests, and should behave as such.

At Versailles, where I play the mistress of the King (Madame du Barry), my character is often attacked and ridiculed. Do I mind? No, absolutely not, it is mainly historically accurate and I know that it is part of the role. As mistress of the King, I am sometimes slightly villainous, but it is only I can be so because I know there are clear boundaries between IC and OOC. All the 'catfights' I've had with Madame Adelaide (daughter of the King) are rather uncomfortable IC, but we laugh about it OOC. I fear some might not always see this 'behind-the-scenes-work.'I always advice everyone to IM someone OOCly, would you feel the need to be malicious to someone ICly, especially if it concerns newer people. Now I am talking about the Versailles RP, where it is more acceptable as long as you keep it IC, but (purposely) insulting someone OOC is never allowed.

OOC = out of character.

IC = In character.

@marielouise-harcourt
22 Jul 2012 02:57:01AM
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Very well made! This might be useful if I face Madame Adelaide again! :D

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